Dear person caught in the middle,

I need to admit something. I don’t know what it’s like to be you right now. You’re a Christian and you know and believe homosexuality is a sin… but you have a gay friend. And since the Supreme Court ruling turned the country upside down, this friend of yours is wondering where your loyalty lies, and if you will turn on them. And you… You’re wondering what in the world you can do. How do you explain that you love them, but you cannot condone their lifestyle? How do you make them understand that you still want to be friends, but you cannot side with them and against God on this issue? Do you talk about this or avoid the subject? Preach or keep your mouth shut? Acknowledge the rainbow elephant in the room or pretend nothing is new?

These are tough questions, and I cannot give you the answers. I can, however, point you to the Book of answers, and to its holy Author.

Romans 1 talks about homosexuality. God makes it very clear that He condemns this sin (as well as every other sin). Homosexuality is abuse of God’s creation, and abuse of oneself. It’s a gateway sin that leads to so many other forms of perversion. It is not real, true, God-ordained love.

But remember, God loves sinners. John 3:16 says God loved the world- that’s an all-inclusive statement. He’s referring to liars, cheats, thieves, homosexuals, rapists, terrorists, murderers, etc. So He sent His only begotten Son to die, to atone for their sins. Because only blood atones for sin– and only the blood of one who is perfect and 100% sinless. Jesus alone met that qualification. So Jesus loves gay people; but their homosexuality is one of the sins that sent Him to His death.

Don’t start fights. Choose your battles, and pray!

If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.

— Romans 12:18

But don’t shy away from the message, from the truth. If you don’t warn these people, your friends, they will not know the truth and will die in their sins. And their blood will be required at your hands.

So thou, O son of man, I have set thee a watchman unto the house of Israel; therefore thou shalt hear the word at my mouth, and warn them from me.
When I say unto the wicked, O wicked man, thou shalt surely die; if thou dost not speak to warn the wicked from his way, that wicked man shall die in his iniquity; but his blood will I require at thine hand.
Nevertheless, if thou warn the wicked of his way to turn from it; if he do not turn from his way, he shall die in his iniquity; but thou hast delivered thy soul.

–Ezekiel 33:7-9

Don’t be afraid. Seek God and trust Him. Keep praying! And don’t ever stop fighting the good fight!